Creativity & Coaching

Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties. – Erich Fromm

As I’m going through my Mama Bliss Coaching School, I had my own coaching session with my own business/life coach, Lou Radja (It’s truly hard to not feel fired up after having a session with him…I highly recommend him for entrepreneurs who want to benefit the world, his motto is: Be More. Give More).

I explained technical concepts “Mama Bliss” and how they are completely in line with my mission and the services I want to provide. But as I listed off the four pillars: Self-Care, Creativity, Values and Simplicity. He stopped me short at Creativity with a perplexed look. He understood the rest of them, but couldn’t quite put his head around why Moms should focus on creativity. I did my best to continue to explain why creativity could/should be important to all Mamas.

Including creativity in the coaching process is brilliant for one simple reason: finding your creativity opens you up to the possibility and shows you that you can indeed do more than you ever thought possible. That’s the whole point of coaching, and creativity is a fun way to think outside your present reality.

Creativity is all about finding ways to express what you are deeply passionate about. It doesn’t have to mean that you’re crafty like Martha Stewart or suddenly become a blue-ribbon painter like my empty-nester sister-in-law. Maybe it’s music that lights you up or starting a book club or gourmet group, the possibilities are truly unlimited. Discovering your own unique creativity is personal, and can easily change with the seasons and over time.

My ideal client is just like me: One Busy Mama. But even when your life is very full, and maybe because it’s so packed, it’s all the more important to prioritize activities that bring you joy (beyond the essentials of self-care). Committing to your creativity doesn’t need to take a ton of time…you need to get creative. 😉

When I was working full time, my simple creative practice was growing flowers and picking bouquets regularly for myself, my co-workers and friends. I shouldn’t be surprised, but this spring Girly is simply overjoyed by all the flowers and bringing bouquets to her teachers and friends almost every day. I can see how my example is rubbing off, but the truth is that I got the bouquet bug from my own Mom. 🙂 Thankfully, we convinced her to save a few tulips for Easter.

Teacher Kathy provided a great coaching technique to help us brainstorm our creativity. I don’t want to give away our Mama Bliss trade secrets, but it was simple and powerful in helping reframe what types of creative projects you can dip into in ten minutes or dabble in for an hour or dive into for longer. It was very helpful for me, since just before doing the exercise I had already made a “wish list” of projects that I would love to create, but I was feeling so inspired (thanks to a great DIY magazine I picked up while traveling on spring break) that my list had gotten a bit carried away. So this quick session helped me feel like it’s possible to wander between projects as time and inspiration attracts me.

Since I’m home all the time now, it’s hard not to focus my creative energy on our home. While I’ve been focused on simplifying (or just maintaining status quo) for several years, I finally feel like I have some time to take on projects that I’ve always want to do, but just haven’t managed. One of my first bigger projects is going to the Rebuilding Center to make a headboard for Sweetie’s bedroom. A middle size project is making a mirror mosaic for the back porch (with my mom’s help who is really experienced). And in my smaller moments of time, I’ll continue to work in our vegetable garden and implementing our permaculture garden plan.

The exciting this about creativity is that everyone’s wish list will be different, and like Kathy reminded us, the more you use your creative muscle, the more creative you’ll become. There is such a tangible payoff in creating something that you just can’t find in other modes, replying to emails just doesn’t spark me the same way. Then, once you’ve made your creation in the world, it’s a physical reminder of that moment in your life. If you’re like me, you’ll remember how old (roughly) the kids were when such and such happened, and they’ll likely all sort of other personal stories wrapped up in your creation.

Although you may want your creativity to be impressive, it’s not really the point. Before we started the week’s lessons on coaching for creativity, Kathy asked us each to write a note to give ourselves permission to NOT be perfect for the sake of our own creativity. It was a simple, but powerful, reminder. At least for me, I have easily convinced myself not to work on a creative project because it wouldn’t turn out as nice as my Mom, who is a retired Home Ec teacher. I found it ironic that Kathy had a similar relationship to sewing because her mother is such a talented seamstress. I guess we Moms need to be careful about making creativity look too complex for our kids…this spring I’ve made a real effort to put whatever flowers/weeds Girly cheerfully brings me in a vase without moving a stem.

Well, I think my little reflection on what I’ve learned this week in coaching school is complete, but I’m very excited that my coaching career is just beginning. I am so looking forward to working with Mamas to bring out their creative passions and finding unique ways to bring them to life. I can only just imagine how beautiful and powerful this path will be.

Have a beautiful day!

Darcy

Posted in Creating Your Bliss, Following My Bliss.

2 Comments

  1. This so very much reminds me of wanting to pick all the flowers as little girls! Thanks for the inspiration to focus on creativity in my life.

    Cheers,

    Miel

  2. Darcy,
    Thank you for this post as a reminder for my mama creative joy. What is it about moms who were seamstresses stifling (or I might be projecting my own thoughts here) our creativity because it won’t look as nice? My mom was a seamstress and had a business designing window treatments for years. I can’t sew a hem, although I have a yearning to quilt. Figures. Loved finding this post today and connecting through Mama Bliss School! xo

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